Domestic abuse: Recognising the signs and knowing how to respond

Domestic abuse can affect anyone regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, disability, religion, or sexual orientation.

Published: 01/10/2025

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It’s not limited to physical violence. Abuse can also be:

• Emotional or psychological – manipulation, threats, humiliation or gaslighting
• Financial – controlling access to money, or running up debts in your name
• Sexual – coercion, assault, or unwanted sexual contact
• Controlling or coercive behaviour – isolating someone, monitoring their movements, or restricting their freedom

Domestic abuse is about power and control and happens within personal relationships, such as between partners or ex-partners, or between family members (where all parties are over 16 years old).

Worried about someone? Here’s what to look for

You might notice subtle or sudden changes in someone’s behaviour, demeanour, or appearance. These could be signs of abuse:

• They may seem fearful, anxious, or intimidated around a partner or family member
• Someone else may always speak for them or control their interactions
• They may have visible injuries like bruises, scratches, or burns
• They may become withdrawn or isolated, avoiding friends or social activities
• They may use phrases like “I need to ask permission” for everyday tasks
• Their appearance may change (wearing excessive clothing in warm weather or more makeup than usual)
• They have frequent absences or report unexplained illnesses

How you can help

If you’re concerned about your own relationship, or that of a neighbour, friend, or someone in your community, trust your instincts. Raising a concern could be life-changing, or even lifesaving. 

In an emergency, always call 999

To contact Peabody: 

• Use our confidential online form to raise a concern
• Or call us on 0300 123 3456

One of our trained Resident Wellbeing Officers will discuss the situation with you and provide useful information on next steps. We also have teams of trained Community Safety Specialists; someone will follow up with you within one working day to assess the situation, discuss your housing needs, and provide further information.

You're not alone

If you’re experiencing abuse or worried about someone else, support is available. You don’t have to manage this alone.